A Thought That Will Change Everything
How To Move Through Life With Greater Self-Belief, Confidence, And Clarity
Self-worth is tricky. It’s a layered moving target constantly influenced by our surroundings, passing moods, and personal history. Feeling valuable and worthy enough to stand firmly behind what feels best for us without caving to social pressure or our own negative thoughts is hard. But if we want to live life instead of letting life live us, then we have to learn how.
Here’s why:
• How we think influences how we feel.
• How we feel influences how we act.
• How we act influences who we are.
• Who we are influences our future.
If we want to become happier, finally make the changes we’ve been sitting on, and feel like we have a say in how our lives will unfold, then we have to believe that we are worth it. Doing so changes the way we think, which changes how we feel, which changes how we act, which shapes who we are.
What’s incredible is that this think > feel > act > who flow can turn into a repeating cycle that continues to make itself stronger.
For example, if you start moving through life with thoughts like…
“You know what? I’m not going to put myself in this situation, which I don’t enjoy, just because someone is asking me to. I’m worth more than that, and I will say no.”
“I’m going to directly ask for what I want in this relationship because I deserve to have my needs met instead of being a people-pleaser. There’s no reason to avoid difficult conversations if I’m not happy anyway.”
“It’s time to start carrying myself with power and confidence at work instead of blending into the background. I will make my voice heard instead of being too anxious to be seen.”
“I want to feel better in my body and have a clearer mind, so I’m not going to drink alcohol tonight, even though everyone around me is. The big-picture health of my mind and physical clarity are worth more than a passing moment of pressure.”
…then you’ll change the way you think, and start feeling more confident, which will make you act with more direction and clarity, redefining who you are to yourself and others.
Most of the time, though, we get caught moving in the other direction. We have a hard time thinking positively about ourselves, stop listening to our intuitive voice, and start shaving down who we are. This makes us think more critically about ourselves, which makes us feel bad and act hesitantly, which, of course, shapes our future as such.
It makes sense that we get caught in this cycle. It feels almost wrong to state our value because we’re brought up to look outside ourselves for validation. We’re taught that we need other people to tell us we are talented, attractive, and visionary for it to be real. But that’s simply not true. Other people telling us we have value does nothing but give us permission to say it to ourselves.
So why spend our lives waiting around, auditioning for other people’s approval, before we simply say something to ourselves?
Here’s a fact: self-worth grows from the inside out. Nothing outside of yourself can ever put you in the mindset of self-belief, confidence, and clarity.
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