How to Radiate Calm and Clarity
I’m sure you’ve found yourself in a coffee shop or bar and suddenly someone walks in with an energy that feels way off. For an invisible reason, the presence of this person makes your heart rate go up, and your senses ping with warning signals.
Those strange alarm bells that go off come from the animal part of our brain. While our intellect is busy paying attention to words and thoughts, our ancient brain is gauging things on a whole different level. It’s important to pay attention to these feelings we get from people. Because in these cases, our intuitive feelings are often more accurate than our immediate thoughts.
Thoughts are mental notes about what has or might happen.
Feelings are physical signals about what is happening.
Have you ever thought about this kind of situation in reverse? It’s easy to remember that time when our sixth sense told us to keep an eye on that shifty guy that’s sweating in the middle of winter. But what about the opposite, when you meet a person whose mere existence makes you feel calm and connected to the present moment?
People with that energy are like soothing life rafts in an ocean of noise. Rather than radiating tension and discomfort, they radiate calm and clarity. These people are able to communicate this feeling because it’s what they are feeling. Getting to a place where we can live in this calm space begins with gaining control of our mental focus.
If you sit back and watch your mind for a moment, you’ll notice it’s darting from random memory–to sense stimulation–to projection about the future–and so on. All that mental noise is part of the story about reality in our minds. It’s the mental narrative flowing through our heads that we tend to watch more than what’s happening in front of us.
Staying hung up in our mental narrative keeps us from accessing the present. It’s also often an anxiety-generating mental tarpit. When we notice our focus getting sucked into the drama of our minds, we should redirect it to what’s happening in the present moment. Then tend to the life that’s going on before our eyes instead of the story that’s flowing through our minds.
The more we can remember to direct our wandering attention to the present moment, the calmer and more clear-minded we will be. That’s because we aren’t snagged in the whirlpool of anxiety-producing thought fragments. We are right here and now, at ease in our bodies, engaged with the rich and abundant beauty of the present.
Pointing your attention to the present takes effort at first. You have to remember to come back to it again and again. That’s cool. Practice is a normal part of building any habit. In time, focusing on the present will become more and more automatic. Before you know it, you will be the one in the room radiating calm and clarity.
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