The Urgency Loop

How To Break The Cycle Of Burnout, Tension, And Anxiety

There’s a silent epidemic flowing through the world.

Urgency.

It’s the tight spot in your chest. The constant need to check something or scroll. Anxious availability at work and in relationships. A background hum of “not enough” that makes you have to numb out.

If you look deeply, you’ll notice you often feel unsettled, but for no real reason. There’s stress in your body, and instead of sitting with it, you reflexively reach for something to avoid it.

Your phone. A new task. A productivity rabbit hole. A glass (bottle?) of wine.

Doing this feels like movement, relief, and control. But really, it’s an escape.

The urgency loop is a tricky one because it feels like it’s solving the problem while secretly feeding it.

Here’s what actually happens:

You feel overwhelmed →
You avoid discomfort by dissociating (scrolling, overworking, substance) →
That avoidance leads to burnout or mental fatigue →
Which gives you the “reason” you need to escape more →
Which increases the overwhelm.

It’s a cycle that keeps you locked in motion but disconnected from yourself.

And the worst part? You start to believe this is just how life works.

But it’s not.

What you’re experiencing isn’t your fault. It’s a nervous system loop.

Your body is trying to regulate tension in the only way it knows how. Through escape. And your mind reinforces it by mistaking urgency for importance.

But real peace doesn’t come from more effort. It comes from conscious interruption.

You break the urgency loop by noticing the pain and anxiety, pausing, taking a deep breath, and choosing not to repeat the same numbing patterns again.

When you start doing that, everything changes.

You remember that presence is more powerful than forced productivity. That slowing down creates more clarity than speeding up. That your nervous system isn’t betraying you, it’s asking you to listen.

The next time you feel the loop, take a breath. Name it for what it is. Notice the emotions and thoughts coming up for you. The tension and feelings of compulsion.

Then step outside of it.

Between the space of stimulus and response, is where freedom, calm, and peaceful clarity live.

The more you consciously break free from the urgency loop, the less power it will have over you. Until one day, you notice your shoulders aren’t tense. Your breath is deep. You’ve stopped scrolling the day away. You feel clear, at ease, and connected to yourself and your life. And you’ll realize you’ve left the loop behind.

If you’re ready to break out of the loop, my friend Yung Pueblo and I are hosting an exclusive live online course together—just for you.

The course is a 21-Day Urgency, Burnout, & Digital Overwhelm Reset. Each day, we’ll both join you live for a 15-minute teaching, for 21 days straight. We’ll guide you on a healing journey that’ll help you clear the mental noise, calm your nervous system, and reconnect with your inner voice.

We’ll also hold three hour-long Q&As where you can ask us questions and get direct guidance.

There are only 7 days left to enroll. Space is limited, and this course will sell out, so if you want to join us, make sure to grab your spot today.